Friday, October 26, 2012

Inspiration to be more determined and love my chosen field

Maybe you do not know but I am a freshman Psychology student. I chose this course even if I don't have such clear reason. My first choice was to be in office just like my mother, or to take a medicine field like veterinary, and up until now, I'm not really sure why I'd pick Psychology. Maybe, I was just intrigue by the nature of human being. My relatives would say I'm really intelligent because I chose this course, but they don't know in reality that I'm not somewhat fond of studying like others. I'm just simply blessed (maybe) to have a wide range of understanding even if it's not really focusing on academics. But I could still  feel inside me that I really understand things on my own; I just can't simply imply those in words coz I find myself still locking of knowledge.

And now, talking about my motive of sharing here, I am currently writing because of such incident and because of what I had read a while ago. Our family had a robbery experience last week. I'm not sure of the exact date but that was before my grandfather must be buried. It was just so sad to think that by the time we're still on our moving on stage of our grandfather's death, things that are important to us just got lost, and what's shocking was that, it was one of our relatives. She's a family. Well, I'm not having any brief background on her but based on what my family was talking about, she and her family had this background of being somewhat thieves. Thieves that are not planning on how much, who, and even what are they going to get. When I heard my Aunt said, " That's the way they are. They really getting something not everything they want. If they saw something that interest them, they would undeniably get that for their satisfaction." And by here, they had concluded that the girl and possibly her family also has this disorder called kleptomania.

Based on (http://www.minddisorders.com/Kau-Nu/Kleptomania.html)

     Kleptomania is an impulse control disorder characterized by a recurrent failure to resist stealing.

Kleptomania is a complex disorder characterized by repeated, failed attempts to stop stealing. It is often seen in patients who are chemically dependent or who have a coexisting mood, anxiety, or eating disorder. Other coexisting mental disorders may include major depression, panic attacks, social phobia , anorexia nervosa , bulimia nervosa , substance abuse, and obsessive-compulsive disorder . People with this disorder have an overwhelming urge to steal and get a thrill from doing so. The recurrent act of stealing may be restricted to specific objects and settings, but the affected person may or may not describe these special preferences. People with this disorder usually exhibit guilt after the theft.
Detection of kleptomania, even by significant others, is difficult and the disorder often proceeds undetected. There may be preferred objects and environments where theft occurs. One theory proposes that the thrill of stealing helps to alleviate symptoms in persons who are clinically depressed.

Causes and symptoms

Causes

The cause of kleptomania is unknown, although it may have a genetic component and may be transmitted among first-degree relatives. There also seems to be a strong propensity for kleptomania to coexist with obsessive-compulsive disorder, bulimia nervosa, and clinical depression.

Symptoms

The handbook used by mental health professionals to diagnose mental disorders is the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders . Published by the American Psychiatric Association, the DSM contains diagnostic criteria and research findings for mental disorders. It is the primary reference for mental health professionals in the United States. The 2000 edition of this manual (fourth edition, text revision), known as the DSM-IV-TR, lists five diagnostic criteria for kleptomania:
  • • Repeated theft of objects that are unnecessary for either personal use or monetary value.
  • • Increasing tension immediately before the theft.
  • • Pleasure or relief upon committing the theft.
  • • The theft is not motivated by anger or vengeance, and is not caused by a delusion or hallucination.
  • • The behavior is not better accounted for by a conduct disorder , manic episode , or antisocial personality disorder.

See what's I'm talking about? After hearing those conclusions, as a psychology student, I got curious. Was this true? Can we really say that she's like that without even checking on her deeper background? The first feeling I felt was a sudden anger for my family's lost but it was replaced in no time by the feeling of wanting to help. Not in a sense that I don't care about the feelings of my family but, in this situation, somebody needs to understand people who needs to be understood. She was sick, although I'm not sure.

After that incident, the next day, they saw her in our place, still roaming and chatting to others as if she's innocent. And we could really tell that she's not coz we had enough evidences and witnesses that would put her to jail. But in respect to our grandfather, we didn't bother to make an issue. Material things were not really important for us. Respect. That was what we need from her.

In the scenario where she still have the guts to face us after what she'd done, became the interesting part for me. My sister kept telling that I'm such a weirdo making such investigative thinking of what that girl had on her mind. Well, I will be going to be a successful psychologist so I'm just preparing my self. I would think that, " Yeah. She still want to show her face to us because she wanted to simply slap to our face her motive to look innocent. But, no. She's really not. Witnesses could defend my statement." The next thing that came to my mind was about the MPD or Multiple Personality Disorder. According to what I've read, a person was having different personalities and from time to time the alters or the other personalities just overruled their host and will do things on their command and when the host will get back to her self again, she would not be able to recover memories from what her alters had done. It's like having different kinds of person inside one body. And in relation to this one, I think this disorder could be one of the reason why that girl had done such terrible things but still manage to make an innocent face to us.Maybe, she had done that but she's not aware. I read a statement on a book said, " there's still deference between, ' she had done that' and 'she's guilty'". But, I, myself, doesn't know things about the MPD scientifically that's why I'm still in doubt.

After going through my thoughts, I almost laugh at myself. Because of these, I'm beginning to show signs of loving my field and now I'm more inspired and determined to finish this one. Although the reasons weren't still clear on my conscious  mind, I know deep inside me knew that I belonged here. That I could find fragments of my life if I pursue this. I really love following my heart with the agreement of my mind when it comes to deciding on things, you know.


That's all for now, I may get busy these days so see you folks! Thank you.♥

Sunday, October 14, 2012

Some things GUYS should know about GIRLS

           "60 Things Guys Should Know About Girls "



1) For all we talk about how hot guys are. We mostly care about there personality. Though a hot body is a plus

2) We are just as shy as you are about relationships

3) Many of us don't let you see us cry, unless we want you to comfort us

4) We like dropping small flirts, to see if you are interested. But we will later deny it or make it into a joke

5) Most of us prefer to be call beautiful than hot or sexy. But not all of us

6) We only wear mini skirts, tank tops and skimpy cloths for you (unless it's REALLY REALLY hot outside). So if you don't like what we wear say something likely look really nice today, but you know...I think I like you in jeans better'

7) We travel in groups for one of two reasons 
                              1) because we want to share some form of gossip with each other or get advice on something 
                              2) B/c we don't want to get caught by ourselves with you because we won't know what to say and are afraid we'll make a fool of ourselves

8) MOST girls spend about 15% of the time thinking about specific guys, 20% thinking of guys in general, 25% thinking of how to get guys to notice us and what to say when we do, 30% of the time TALKING about guys (even if someone else isn't listening), and 10% of the time doing something else

9) Girls automatically assume that all guys are ***** and only want to get into our pants until you prove otherwise (and even then some small part of us still thinks that)

10) Most girls are under the impression that guys only want skinny 'hot' girls 

11) Most girls enjoy being paraded around once in awhile in front of your friends. We enjoy having you show us off to your friends, kind of like, 'Hey, look at my hot ass girlfriend! Aren't you jealous?" But we don't enjoy being nothing but a trophy girl

12) Nicknames like "Babe, or darling" are safe to call just about any girl. But beware of "Princess or Angel". Some girls will take offense to this thinking you are calling them to innocent or incapable of taking care of themselves.

13) Speaking of nicknames, almost every girl has ONE nickname that they just love to be called

14) Most girls will drop lots of hints to tell you that they like you, but won't come right out and say" I like you" or "I love you". If you think they like you, there is a good chance they do.

15) Scenario time! -You like a girl named Ashley, Ashley has a friend named Brenda. Brenda comes up you in the hall and asks "Do you like Ashley?"

More often than not in this scenario Ashley asked Brenda to ask you because she is to shy to ask you herself. And even if she didn't the first thing Brenda is going to do with your answer is tell Ashley. Now you are thinking "WHAT!? NO!! DON"T TELL HER THAT!!!" but in reality, this is a good thing. Because there is a good chance she already likes you. And if she doesn't, she will now be looking at you in a different way, and let me tell you. It's a lot easier to fall for a guy if you already know they like you. So its safe. So go ahead and tell Brenda that you like Ashley. Take a chance.

16) Girls hate it when guys say perverted things.

17) Girls love to feel special, even though they might not show it

18) Girls talk about everything with their girl friends. So unless you tell us not to tell them about something, they WILL know about it within 3 days. And if you are the girl's boyfriend, that means, you're possibly 90% of their conversation. And believe me, trash talking takes up most of it, unless you're a Greek god, which you're not...

19) Girls hate guys with bad hygiene.

20) Girls love it when a guy pulls them close by the waist 

21) Most girls like a guy that will willing dance with them, even if he doesn't know how

22) Usually, when a girl is sarcastically mean to you, it means they're attracted to you, but are afraid that they'll be showing too much

23) A kiss on the hand with the right timing can be a REAL TURN-ON

24) Some girls can think about their crushes for 18+ hours straight. No exaggeration

25) When a guy says something really sentimental, girls will remember it forever

26) Girls get embarrassed easily, even if guys don't know what the hell just happened.

27) Girls daydream about their crushes ALL the time. They just don't show it.

28) When a girl is upset and wants you to listen, she wants you to listen. She doesn't need you to fix it or tell her how to. She just wants you to listen.

29) When a girl is crying, she feels a lot safer if you pull her close and tell her that everything is going to be all right. And more likely than not, it will endear them to you more than anything else.

30) Girls love it when guys say their name

31) Girls love confidence

32) When a girl cooks for you, you know you mean a lot to her

33) Girls hate it when other girls flirt. Yet they flirt themselves too. Ah, the beauty of irony

34) We don't enjoy talking dirty to you as much as you enjoy listening.

35) Saying something sweet might get you off the hook; doing something sweet will always get you off the hook.

36) Size does matter, but only to hoes; not girls that want relationships.

37) No matter what you say, your ex-girlfriend is a hoe to us. Not because we don't like your taste in women, because believe me WE do! its just that...we don't want to have to wonder if she is better than us. And if she is a hoe, we are better. So it makes things simple for us.

38) We are self-conscious by nature; we can't help it. But we CAN try and hide it.

39) Even if you think it is cool to burp, fart, or emit other strange gases from your body, it is not. Though we sometimes will tell you it is.

40) As far as you are concerned, we are beautiful at all times, and don't tell us different, unless you make it sound like a compliment (even if it isn't) Like, "You were really pretty yesterday when you wore -insert clothing/accessory here-, I think you should wear that more often"

41) Whatever you do, don't just show up at our house unexpected or at least without ringing the door bell...we run around in our underwear just like you do. And no matter how much you would like to see that, we will likely never talk to you again

42) DON'T CHEAT ON US. It may seem foolproof, but girls tell each other everything about everything. Trust me, they WILL find out and you will be dirt.

43) We want you to beware of every male relative and all guy friends. All of them would kick your ass at the drop of a hat, and a lot of them wouldn't even wait for the damn hat. We just don't want you to be too obvious.

44) We enjoy being kissed by you in front of your friends. It makes us feel like you care a lot about us.

45) You don't have PMS; so don't act like you know what it's like. Don't try to understand...believe me you never will.

46) Violent statements like "If that guy keeps looking at you, I'm going to tear his head off" are appealing

47) We don't want you to say you love us if you don't mean it

48) We love it when you make eye contact with us while we talk.

49) Most girls are afraid of losing our independence to guys (for some unknown reason)

50) If you ask a girl out directly, more likely than not, she will say yes to you. Even if she only has lukewarm feelings for you, because it will give her the chance to get to know you better and get to like you even more.  
51) Most girls love it when guys ask them for advice.

52) Girls like it when you tell us what you are thinking, even if you don't understand it yourself

53) After you've been dating for a while, realize that we really have started to trust you. When you have a girlfriend who truly trusts you, you have a lot more responsibility, privilege and control than you would think. Be careful with it, most guys would kill for that kind of power, and it can be lost in a nanosecond

54) There is nothing wrong with being attentive and sensitive. However, this behavior can be carried too far. You don't have to hang on our every word or give in to our every whim. The thrill of the chase doesn't end after the first successful pick-up line. If you don't present us with some minor challenges, we're likely to get bored, or worse, feel that you're creepy and obsessive.

55) Variety is the spice of life. There are patterns underlying what your woman says she likes and doesn't like. It would benefit you far more to try and discern the nature of these than to repeat everything she admits to enjoying until she no longer does

56) Most men think the chase ends once they have us, but truly it has only just began.You must work even harder to keep us then you do you earn us. We not some trophy you can earn,put on a shelf and admire. You have to care for us like the living human beings we are.(see 54)

57)WHEN WE SAY NO ITS NO, SO STOP ASKING!!!

58)If someone flirts with you, its a complement. If you're not interested, accept it but don't flirt back.

59)The woman in your life needs to hear how you feel about her, and often. Tell her now

60)All women are complicated, and it is doubtful any man will ever fully be able to understand us.But we know that, so its going to be okay.


So? Which one do you think is true?And which are not?

Friday, October 12, 2012

Limitations...and beauty behind darkness...



" Every thing has its limitations...even the day has its end...how about life? Probably. "

 

"...but every ending, indicates for a new and fresh beginning."

 

This is for my beloved grand father who became one of my reasons to continue living my life to the fullest. I really love you, lolo. May you rest in peace.

 

Next time, I'll try to post my own pictures of sunset. Thanks!



Thursday, October 11, 2012

Blue Roses


Blue roses do not occur in nature, at least not the absolute blue roses. Roses lack the pigment that produces blue color. Our blue roses have been painstakingly created and imbued with a special meaning.

Much like its mysterious origin, the blue rose means mystery. An appreciation for the enigmatic, the inexplicable is expressed by blue roses. A tantalizing vision that cannot be totally pinned down, a mystery that cannot be fully unraveled is the blue rose. A person who receives the blue rose is the subject of much speculation and thought. A complex personality that does not allow easy interpretation is what the blue rose indicates.

Another meaning of the blue rose is that it symbolizes the impossible, or the unattainable. Since the blue rose itself is a rarity in nature, it stands for something that is hardly within one's grasp, an object that seems too difficult to be achieved. Thus the blue rose is admired and revered as an unrealizable dream.

The blue rose being in itself something very extraordinary expresses that very same feeling. "You are extraordinarily wonderful", the blue rose exclaims. A truly wonderful personality, almost chimera-like is what the blue rose says about the receiver. A flight of fancy, an irrepressible imagination is what the blue rose is all about.



Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Hello every one!

Hi!

I'm Rin! I hope I can gain more friends here! Nice meeting you all!♥